My Child Wants to Dye Their Hair

There are a lot of things that parents have to worry about when their children enter the pre-teen and teenage years. Peer pressure, friends you don’t like, drugs, and alcohol are things that concern parents. What do you do if your child wants to dye their hair?

With all of the other things that teens could be getting involved in, a child wanting to dye their hair is the least of your worries. Before telling your child they can’t dye their hair, ask them some questions:

• Is the reason you want to dye your hair because your friends are doing it?
• What color do you want to dye it?
• Have you checked into whether dying your hair would be safe?
• If you don’t like the way it turns out, will you dye it back or leave it?
• Do you feel dying your hair will affect the way others think about you?

Other children want to dye their hair to get attention. Wanting attention, no matter if it’s positive or negative, is part of the reason why teenagers are into gothic styles. They want people to look at them; they crave the attention.

Another reason why pre-teens and teenagers want to dye their hair is to exert some sense of independence. This is a common occurrence for children at these ages. They feel they have to pull themselves from their parents in order to become who they are supposed to be when they grow up.

Choose your battles when it comes to your pre-teen and teenagers. With all of the other things your child could choose to become involved in, dying their hair is not worth fighting about. How would you feel if they told you they wanted access to some form of birth control? That does help you put things into perspective.

Try to understand their reasoning for wanting to dye their hair. And even though this may seem like odd advice, unless they want to do something drastic or dangerous, let them. Their hair will grow out.

It’s more important to maintain a good relationship with your child than to worry about what they look like on the outside. If they are still basically the same child, their outward appearance shouldn’t be an issue.

If you’re concerned about your child wanting to dye their hair, try to put things into perspective. In the long run, as long as they are still compliant in other areas, their hair color is really a non-issue. Let them experiment with their hair color; they could be asking for cosmetic surgery instead.